Let me just say that I am so happy and lucky to have Collin. He is such a fun kid when he has slept and been feed, and will smile at most anyone during the 15 minutes or so that he's usually happy during the day :)
But, I have really been struggling these last few weeks. After he was about 2 weeks old he started crying a lot more. My doctor told me that was normal, and that they usually start settling down around 3 months. After that, Collin started having his on and off weeks, usually off, but sometimes we'd go a few days where he would be happy. Around that same time he would cry unless I was holding him. At that time it was ok because he only weighted about 8 pounds and so I could do most things one handed.
That was hard for Chase since he really wanted to play and hold Collin, but about 95% of the time Collin would just start to cry if he would hold him. It was hard for other people as well, like my mom who wanted to play and hold him, but Collin just wouldn't have any of it.
Now that Collin is almost 4 months old I was hoping that he would start to kind of grow out of this stage, but it doesn't seem like anything is getting better. He still just screams most of the time unless I'm holding him, although he's getting better with Chase. But we can't leave him with anyone unless we've already put him down because he will just cry the whole time.
I knew that having a baby was going to take a lot of work, but it just seems like once or twice a week Chase comes home to me and Collin sitting on the couch crying. I feel like I'm surrounded by babies that sleep, and Collin still only takes an hour nap during the day and then wakes up every 2 hours during the night. I keep trying to get him to sleep though one of the feedings, but he will just lay there and scream unless I feed him. I would try letting him just cry it out, but I feel so bad for our neighbors. We had a family that lived next to us for about 3 weeks and they would just let their twin girls cry for an hour or more, usually around 3 am. So not only was I up with Collin, but then I'd have to sleep on the couch because the next door neighbors were crying. Anyway, I'm hoping that someday it will get better. I just needed to vent a little because I know that I'm doing all I can, but I just can't hold a 16 pounder all day and night. I've still got to do stuff, and get sleep. I love him to death, but I'm going to be very happy when he starts letting other people help him.
Thanks to all my family who is willing to watch him when I have stuff that I have to do (like get a crown put on) even though he screams most of the time they are with him. He's going to have to start settling down or else he's not going to get a brother or sister in a few years :)
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Know how that goes. Rose has been the same way from birth too. She loves me more than anyone it seems. I just figured she was colicky, and she'd grow out of it. She's gotten a little better (but obviously not colicky anymore). I'm sure Colin will grow out of it more quickly (at least I'm assuming that since he's a boy). I feel your pain. Rose occasionally wakes up at night, and we live on the other side of the twins, so we hear them too. Maybe all three of us can cry together. Let me know if you need a break. My kids LOVE babies!
Jenny do you need a hug? You know that if I were around I would give you a hug. I feel sad about your situation and wish there was someway that I could help. Prayers maybe but just know if there is anything I can do to help you please let me know. I don't have any babies myself yet but Beth and I are looking at trying soon. So soon I will be asking you questions cause I don't know. I hope things get better for you and your family. Know that I still love you as a dear friend and am here if you ever need to talk or vent or anything. Ok?
I am so sorry. I feel so bad. I wish I could say something to help but I have no children so I have no idea what you are going through. My dog throws up a lot if that makes you feel better. She just poops all over the house too. At least your little guy has healthy lungs. I'll be thinking of you!
oh jenny! that is so hard! My sister's little one is having the same issues, and she went to the natures way store and bought what is called gripe water i think, and its all natural liquid stuff she puts a drop in his bottle and she said it seems to really help him, you should go there and ask someone they will probably have suggestions for colic and stuff, if you are up for that. good luck!
you mean when he turned three months old it just didn't "get better"??!! haha I remember you said your doctor said that. He really will grow out of it one day. i'm sure you keep hearing that. =) You seriously can call me anytime okay!!! Good luck!
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